Grateful Project Day 175: A Supportive Class Adviser

Like I mentioned in an earlier post, I volunteered to be a class parent officer in my son’s class. In my capacity as secretary, I deal a lot with the class adviser. This year, I am excited to work with our new class adviser. We met her after the orientation last week. She seems nice – strict, but nice. We’ve had some exchange of e-mails this past week and it seems that she is very eager to take on her new wards. I look forward to working with her this coming school year.

Grateful Project Day 174: Kids Back in School

Today is the first day that both my kids are back in school. I am grateful that they are in good schools. My husband and I grew up in families which place a lot of value on education. We do too. May this school year be an enriching experience for all.


Grateful Project Day 119: Excellent Report Card

Report cards were distributed last Saturday but we weren’t able to go to Trixi’s school for it. Today was her enrollment schedule so we picked up the card before that. She received excellent marks in all her subjects. She had some difficulty this year compared to the previous years because of the bridging program. Because of the implementation of the K + 12 program, her school embarked on a bridging program this year. That meant learning the subject matter for two grade levels this year so she can skip a level next year. Aside from that, she was also chosen to represent the school in a couple of Math and Science competitions, which meant extra work for her. But nevertheless, she continued to do well. I am happy that her hard work paid off. Keep up the good work, Trixi!

Grateful Project Day 79: Ms. Jona

I am grateful for Ms. Jona, the Math coordinator in my daughter’s school. She was the teacher who chose my daughter to represent the school in an upcoming Math contest. She has been a big help in the contest preparations. My husband and I didn’t know how best to help our daughter. Ms. Jona lent her some books for her to go over. Aside from that, Ms. Jona is also holding one-on-one sessions with her to teach her advanced lessons and to give her practice exercises. We thought our daughter would resent having to do extra studying but she has been enjoying these preparations. She really loves the challenges! So thank you, Ms. Jona, for helping her in this endeavor.

Getting A Tutor (Or Not)

When I was in school, only those with failing marks had tutors. My siblings and I grew up studying by ourselves. Our mom was there to supervise our studying, to answer our questions if we had any, but we learned to study on our own. Nowadays, though, it seems like every other kid has one. Having a tutor now is not only for those with low grades. Even those who do well in class have tutors too. They claim that tutoring gives the extra push needed to do better, to get higher scores, to excel.

My son entered a different school for High School. Standards are higher, lessons are harder. The teachers warned them early on that in this school, you really need to study. Most of you, they said, were able to get honors in your previous school with minimal effort. But now, you need to work harder in order to excel.

When the first set of test results were returned, some members of his class got failing grades. Others got passing marks, but still below what they were used to getting in Grade School.  The parents panicked – let’s get a tutor for our kids, somebody suggested.  These are smart kids; they just need some tutoring now that they are in the adjustment period.

My husband and I had a discussion. Our son was doing okay, in some subjects better than in others, but generally okay. But he got a failing mark in a quiz. Only 3 in their class passed that quiz, but that doesn’t really matter. He failed a quiz. Do we go with the other parents and hire a tutor?

What can tutoring give him that he cannot do for himself? After all, the tutor will not be doing the studying – he has to do that himself. And if we do this now, getting him a tutor because he has a hard time, when does it end? College is difficult – do we get him a tutor then? Work is hard – do we get help for him then?

We decided not to get him a tutor. We believe that he has the skills and the capabilities to handle the lessons that are taught in school. We believe he should learn to cope on his own. If the effort he placed was not enough, then he should realize that he just has to work harder.  Maybe now, he will come to realize that it takes effort to get things that are worth having.

As for us, his parents, we will provide him with everything we can to make this work. We will support him in every way we can. We will do this WITH him, not FOR him. We will keep his spirits up when he gets discouraged.  We will encourage him to strive harder, to go farther, when he feels like giving up. We will celebrate every triumph, however small they may seem.  Whatever happens, he has the satisfaction of knowing he did it himself.

Entering High School

My eldest son starts high school tomorrow. He has never been this excited to go back to school after summer vacation. He says he’s ready, but I don’t think I am. I share his excitement, that’s for sure, but I also dread what this stage means – that he’s growing up, he’s going out into the world and soon he’ll spread his wings and fly. Gone is the little boy who thought I was the smartest girl ever because I taught him how to add. In his place is a young man taller than me, excited at the prospect of having female classmates for the first time.